The Value Of A Relationship Title

I have recently gotten out of a seven-month relationship with a man who cheated on me but is adamantly claiming that he did not. According to him we were really only “seeing each other” the entire time. Turns out that seeing each other means having sex regularly, going on vacation together, meeting the family, acting as his plus one at events and taking care of him when he is sick. A classic case of a miscommunication.
— Excerpt from, Whatever Happened To Romance?

 

When it comes to relationships, why do we place so much value on titles and so little value on feelings and actions?  Why is it acceptable to act like someone is your partner, and then escape any responsibility or commitment towards that person when it is convenient because of a label?

The power that a title holds in a relationship above all else has led to many miscommunications and broken hearts all over the modern dating world. At the end of the day, no matter how much time you’ve spent together and no matter how you feel, it all doesn’t matter if you were just “seeing each other.”

At least, this the card that individual’s suffering from the ultimate dating paradox are playing, The one’s who have an inherent fear of commitment and an even greater fear of loneliness. The one’s who reel someone in and treat them like they’re exclusive, only to hop away to the next best thing when they get the chance. Terrified of being alone but equally afraid to miss out on something better if they commit, they negate the value of their current relationships with a menial title. “Seeing each other,” “casually dating,” “just friends,” are all terms commonly used to describe the non-relationship, relationship these types of people frequently find themselves in.

We’re living in a time where too many people are afraid to take an honest chance on love and commit to someone they could actually have a bright future with. One of the problems is that we have access to so many different options now that it’s creating a barrier to finding real love due to a fear of missing out. Options make you doubt what you already have, and this particular type of person continues to browse the dating catalogue without comprehending the hurt they may be causing in other peoples lives. Naturally, this is also the type of person that relishes in double standards. They can still play the field but they want you to commit to them only. If you don’t, jealousy, arguments and accusations almost always ensue. 

Ultimately, a person who deems a title more binding than anything else will never be able to provide you with the security you desire. Sure, titles are an important identifying feature but what if we cared just a little bit more about each other?

Dating is not a game. It’s real life- real people and real feelings. The day we understand the importance of showing respect for one another and realize that people aren’t inanimate, disposal objects, will be the day that modern dating becomes just a little bit kinder and easier for everyone.

And that’s something we would all benefit from.

 

The Fifteen Faces Of Girls Night

In every group of friends there is an eclectic mix of personalities, which always results in an interesting night out. Here are the fifteen different types of girls that frequently make an appearance on girls night. 

THE EMOTIONAL DRUNK

"I don't always cry but when I do it's when I'm drunk and for absolutely no reason." 

THE "PROFESSIONAL DANCER"

"I took a hip-hop class once..I know what I'm doing."

THE FLASHER

 

"Hey everyone look at me!"

THE UNIMPRESSED

"Ew."

THE LIGHTWEIGHT 

"Those two shots went straight to my head..."

THE RAVER

"I'M JUST HERE FOR THE MUSIC!!" 

THE LOUD MOUTH ARGUER 

"OMG you're so wrong." 

THE LUSH

"Just one more, I'm not drunk enough!"

THE DESTROYER

"Lets F*ck shit up."

THE HUNGRY ONE

"I only go out to a nightclub to justify eating junk food at 3am."

THE FLIRT

"Let's just be friends." 

THE VOICE OF REASON

"I just called us a cab."

THE ANGRY DRUNK

"I will cut you."

THE NARCISSIST 

"So weird, I need to use the washroom again..."

THE FEEL-GOOD FRIEND

No matter how poorly you're behaving, the feel-good friend is always

doing something ten times worse and inadvertently making you

feel good about your decisions.                                                                                                           

11 Factors That Determine If A Girl Will Go Out

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  1. If she has a cute outfit to wear. 
  2. If she feels skinny aka not bloated.
  3. If there's a guy that she's trying to piss off.
  4. If she is in the mood to make bad decisions but can only justify it them when drinking. ie. texting an ex, eating pizza at 3am etc... 
  5. If her hair looks extra nice today. (This often results in going out on a Monday)
  6. If she's afraid of missing out on the "best night ever." 
  7. If she feels like dancing will sufficiently replace her work out for the day. 
  8. If she hasn't had sex in a long time and feels like tonight might be the night to change that.
  9. If she just watched Sex and the City or any number of movies that make going out with the girls, making bad decisions and getting fucked up look appealing.  
  10. If she thinks she might run into a certain somebody that she is still not over. 
  11. Because her friends guilt her into it and she has absolutely no say in the matter. (Phrases like "don't be a loser," "you're so lame." Are often used to get the job done.)

Thank You

Hi everyone and thank you for visiting my website!

The journey of writing "Whatever Happened To Romance? began five years ago when I first started documenting the uncomfortable nature of dating! What started out as silly note entries into my phone every time a date went sour (you can only imagine how many notes I have), eventually turned into writing a full blown novel. 

Although the process of writing a book has often proved challenging, I couldn't be more thrilled with the end result! Thank you to all my friends and family for the support and motivation along the way. And thank you to all of the heart breakers out there for acting as my "learning experiences," and giving me plenty of material to write about.   

My hope is that every woman and man who reads this laugh until they pee themselves and also take away some valuable insight about the modern dating world. 

Each event in the book is very real! Although, I do satirize some of my inner dialogue and conversations as a means to properly demonstrate how twisted the dating world has truly become. 

Whether you're single or in a relationship, this book has something for everyone! Please read and send me your feedback, I would be happy to hear it! 

Thank you to everyone who reads "Whatever Happened To Romance?" I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I enjoyed writing it. 

With lots of love,

K.T. Edwards